My girlfriend with dull, dry and brittle hair with many tangles

October 29, 2011 M. Liong

Hello, I have a question and I hope you can help me with it. My boyfriend has a daughter (I will call her my little friend). She is officially a double blood but has 100% frizzy hair.

Meisje met kroeshaar Since I have no experience with frizzy hair myself, I have read some things on the Internet and heard and copied from my mother-in-law, so I have tried to comb her hair myself for a while.

Now it is the case that the hair of little friend is deteriorating more and more. When we pick her up it is very often dry and stiff. It is also not always combed out with the result that there are thick tangles, or better said knots, that I have to comb out. I can't stand the way the hair is treated and in this way I try to at least try to make the hair look decent.

I was wondering now if I was treating her hair right. I wash it with BeautifulBeginnings 2 in 1 shampoo + conditioner and use BeautifulBeginnings-Ochless Detangler to comb out her hair and something from Kids Organics (I can't remember the name of the product).
She also goes swimming every week and it seems as if her hair has become even duller and more brittle as a result.

I hope you can give me advice on how to best treat my hair so that it looks a bit healthy again and gives it some shine. I would rather not use chemicals and that kind of crap, because I don't like that myself.

I also read about the Knots Teezer. Does it really work and would it possibly help in the case of my little friend and her bushy hair? It is always a lot of work to comb out the hair in the least painful way possible. I already feel sorry for myself at the thought of having to comb out her hair again, because it is not done often enough at home.

Thanks in advance!! And my compliments for your website.

Greetings,
Priscilla

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Hi Pricilla,

Thanks for the compliments. I always experience them as a pleasant incentive to do even better.

You and your girlfriend are in a bit of a difficult situation. There are few children who enjoy combing their hair when it is neglected. Combing out knots is not fun anyway, with any hair type, but it can be traumatic for children with frizzy hair who have few examples of nice hairstyles and are a minority group.

Swimming weekly honestly doesn't make it any easier because chlorine is also a misery for any hair type but still I have high hopes. That's because the best time to build a good relationship with young frizzy kids is while combing hair. The fact that this hurts you and you do your best to make it better says a lot. You and your little friend can really become very good friends.

To start with, I can recommend the following for every swimmer:

1) Apply Silky Shea Hair Butter to your hair; this hair butter forms a protective layer around your hair.

2) Before swimming, shower with your hair; this step ensures that the chlorine water has less impact on your hair. (See the drops on the sheet)

3) Always wear a swimming cap. Whether or not you go under with your head.

These steps will help the hair a lot, but the following steps are also essential to keep the hair in condition. If you do not want to use chemical junk, I would not recommend the products you mention. Sodium Laureth Sulfate is the 2nd ingredient and that is certainly not natural. The products in the frizzy hair webshop are. Hopefully you want to try them. Here is my advice.

I have tried many shampoos but the only one that I am convinced works great, even after swimming is the Going Natural Herbal Shampoo o . Be careful with children. It is completely natural but it does burn the eyes. I promise you will notice a difference immediately.

The best conditioner you can use on top of that is the Detox Conditioner . Wonderful stuff that will make the hair much easier to comb and the hair will visibly recover and shine. To detangle the hair, the No More Knots detangling conditioner is recommended.

It's a lot of products, but I wouldn't recommend them if I didn't think they were necessary to give your girlfriend's hair a good boost.

At least as important is to do the hair with all patience. As I wrote, combing hair is the real quality time with a child where you can create a good bond without realizing it and pass on the appreciation for the beauty of a child.

Odi and success,
Mireille