Hello, First of all I would like to say that you really have a beautiful site! I got tears in my eyes when I was reading your story. I feel exactly the same and have experienced almost exactly the same as you. My mother is from Belgium, my father from Ghana. As a result, I have a big head of curls on my head. I actually feel very unhappy about it, and I have so much admiration for you!!!!
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I have tried everything, straightening with a burning substance that makes my head glow and leaves painful wounds, leaving curls, flat iron, ... But nothing really seems to help. I really don't feel "beautiful" because of it.
When I look around and see everyone with beautiful hair that always seems perfect, and then I look at myself in the mirror. I see a ponytail of lifeless, broken, styled strands hanging down.
I am really desperate, and I don't feel good about it. I have so much respect for you! You are a beautiful woman with a lively, radiant hairdo.
Kind regards ,
Jessica
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Dear Jessica,
Thank you for your email. Of course I am super happy that you find the kroeshaar website beautiful, but what touched me most were the emotions that the site unleashed in you. The feeling that you have expressed so openly is really wonderfully inspiring to read. I would like to explain why.
The goal of this site has always been to show the true beauty of afro hair, against the negative, outdated and stereotypical ideas. That is not always easy, for the very reason you describe.
Many women with frizzy hair are just like you, so convinced that frizzy hair is not beautiful that they don’t dare to go out with their own natural strands. As a result, they will do literally anything to prevent their hair from looking frizzy. From straightening and tongs to curly and texturizers.
When the hair breaks and they get bald spots they just buy a weave to camouflage the damage. That is very sad because of course you do not solve the problem, but rather you destroy your own beautiful hair even more while there is really nothing wrong with frizzy hair.
I am very grateful to you because your words give me hope! It is for girls and women like you that I do what I do and your email is living proof to me that the hours are well spent.
The beautiful woman you see on the website is a reflection of yourself; an Afrocentric woman who is not ashamed of her roots, but has literally given her hair roots the chance to blossom.
I hope from the bottom of my heart that one day you will be very happy with your own hair and that you can see the same beautiful woman you describe in your email when you look in the mirror. Hopefully you can see how special frizzy hair is. Here is another video of a 10 year old with dreadlocks.
Let's keep in touch,
Mireille
