Besides the royal wedding itself, the fact that Meghan has a black mother with dreadlocks has left the world in awe.
Although I hadn't read an article or seen a single clip until the day of the wedding itself, I was dragged into it by my locs when an acquaintance of mine emailed: Mireille, you know you look like Meghan's mother, right?
I had never seen the mother. Just the day before I heard on the radio that she had locs. Now I was curious.
Up until then I had consciously not followed anything because I thought that people, the media, the world were making too much of it than what it was; two people in love getting married.
That happens daily and of course I understood that this was about a prince, but all the fuss around it especially because it was about race could not please me. I thought something like lieb den sma , leave those people alone.
The idea that it would be a great honor for Meghan made my toes curl. I think this can only live with people who believe in fairytales, a fairytale wedding and have not experienced the wedding of Princess Diana and Prince Charles.
I have lived long enough on this earth to know that love is almost the only thing that matters in a marriage. Everything that comes with it status, money, titles and especially health is a bonus, because whoever you are, wherever you are, it is never all roses and moonshine. The bishop with his message about love was absolutely on point: There is power in love, Love is Power.
The next day someone also posted on my wall that it would be a great statement if Meghan wore her hair naturally curly or kinky and that I could maybe teach her a thing or two.
Of course I like being seen as an expert, but I think some things are being misinterpreted.
First of all, if a marriage is a statement, it is one of love. As far as I know, Prince Harry and Meghan did not get married to make a statement to the world. Certainly not to validate me or black women in general.
Here too my toes curl. Their statement is that they want to spend their lives together. Color, race, status has nothing to do with it. I, personally, wish them all the happiness and love.
Although I also find it a beautiful love story, this is not unique to me. In Suriname I have seen Muslims marry Hindus, all races and classes mix with each other. As my mother said, blood is thicker than water.
Other than the images I’ve seen, I know absolutely very little about Meghan. But from what I’ve seen, including her mother with the beautiful dreadlocks, who Prince Harry says is “great,” I have no doubt that Meghan is powerful and better than anyone else at choosing which statements to make. With or without curly hair.
The purpose of kroeshaar.com is not to impose a hairstyle on women or to judge or stigmatize them based on a hairstyle. The site, my purpose is purely to inform and fight for the right to wear our kinky hair naturally. Of course I also offer solutions and I would like you to contribute by shopping at https://WhatNaturalsLove.com.
