Sajonara, an administrative employee at the government, has been frizzy again since 2010 after relaxing for only a year. She had no bad experiences. On the contrary. Her hair grew out beautifully long. So why did she go frizzy?
I always had to hear that I had a difficult olois' feather type of hair. Then it was too short or too dull. That's why I wasn't so crazy about my hair. My foster mother on the other hand had long soft frizzy hair, because somewhere there was Indian blood flowing in her. So she often showed off her natural hair.
I relaxed for the first time in 2009. I didn't have any bad experiences with it. My hair was nice and long and grew out a lot. A year later I went frizzy again. I thought relaxing had too much work and rules. From washing, blow-drying to ironing. And I'm someone who gets bored quickly with 1 type of hair. I like change and with relaxed hair I couldn't do much I thought. With my frizzy hair I could braid different models and even braid if I wanted to.
I had to cut my hair and I was afraid it wouldn't grow back, but within two months it was already in a band. I never relapsed because I find relaxing boring. And relapse now is completely out of the question.
I am in the process of embracing my hair. I have never looked at my hair like this before. I love it so much and I look forward to doing a different hairstyle every time. I create hairstyles in my head all day long. I catch myself sneaking glances at other naturals for inspiration.
Sojanara's Daughter joined in the fun
My perception of frizzy hair has changed completely since I joined the Facebook group natural candies. In the past I took every opportunity I got to hide my hair under false braids. Not because I hated my hair but simply out of ignorance. I didn't know how to deal with it, what I could do with it and which products I should use. I am now busy sucking all the wisdom from the group and of course also sharing what I experience through my own 'inventions'.
Going curly has taught me that it's a waste of time, energy and money to relax when you can put all that into taking care of your natural hair and achieve greater lasting results.
The process has torn me away from white supremacy. I don't need straight and long hair to be beautiful. Nor do I need light-colored skin to be counted. I'm beautiful just the way I am.
I love my hair because I have been blessed with it by the Lord above.